Men Can Cry, Women Too

To our culture it is more acceptable to appear strong rather than weak. It follows that when one is hurt it is better to express this pain with anger rather than tears. However, the truth of weakness lies in the fact that only a weakling would feel the need to mask the pain by projecting an image of power through expressions of rage. The strength, then, is to be found in the security of being in the pain and not feeling that the pain need be expressed in any other way than naturally, with tears and a lower mood. The secure person isn't concerned about being perceived by society as weak for feeling and expressing personal hurt. This is natural living and because it contradicts influential societal expectations, it can also be considered heroic and brave.

From here on out, try and see the innocent infant child in everyone you meet. All people then easily appear as equals: all wanting love, safety, happiness, and joy. The people in our society who act the toughest, who pack on the most muscle, who shrug off war and murder as "necessary acts" that help with population control, people who get the most tatoos, ride motorcycles with the toughest crew, join the strongest gangs, and even end up in prison, all are really the tiny infants in need of the most love, which is the only source of true healing. The people among us who present themselves as the toughest are the most insecure, for the truly secure needn't put an ounce of energy into presenting any self-image to the world.

All of us have insecurities, fears, and past pains inside. Those who project any kind of image in order to protect themselves and deny their own insecurity are obviously the most insecure. These attempts are completely fruitless because their wish was to appear less vulnerable and insecure, yet every conscious being on Earth can spot their insecurity in their every movement and act and word. The more they try, the more obvious the scared little infant child in them becomes. The only way to continue pretending successfully is to remain around unconscious people. But the healing they are really needing, the love the infant craves, cannot be found amongst the unconscious.

It is the aware, who lack the need to project out a self-image, that become perfect mirrors to reflect back unconscious behavior to the unconscious people. One who is acting with all his might to present a certain self-image becomes completely obvious to himself only when in the presence of somebody who is being natural and free. This free being doesn't judge the non-free, and thus the non-free become aware of the potential to be free around those who are already free. This is the meaning of unconditional love. Being love, being peace, being natural is effortless. The infant knows how to do it well. All we must do is simply remember. Not a single person lacks the ability to simply be.

When and unconscous self-image projecting person is around other unconscious self-image projectors the result is that the game becomes "Who can project the best and most real self-image?" But any self-image is false to begin with. They can only appear to be real. They never are, for being is effortless, whereas projecting a self-image requires enough work to cause cancer, heart-attacks, and innumerable diseases such as depression and the sense of complete loneliness and isolation.