You Know You are Ready For Love When..............

I think you know when you are ready for a healthy relationship when you are ok alone. This is the signal. When you can sit alone and know in your life that all is well and will be well even if you never have someone come along that is a great match for you, this is when you are ready for that which is the epitome of the perfect union.

Why are we so afraid to be alone? What is it that makes us so scared? Is it a series of deaths, like the new agers and Hindu people would say? So many lives lost that we are used to associating loss with death and loneliness cuz we ourselves have always died alone and have always felt loss alone? Have we intrinsically associated death and being alone and love and loss with each other, thus making us intrinsically fearful? Hmmmmm.

Self-reliance...........the best essay Emerson ever wrote. Read it ten times.

Here are 5 books that will lead you to true and lasting freedom and an inner-joy that is undeniable and eternal:

1.Illusions, by Richard Bach
2.The Alchemist, author's name escapes me
3.Siddhartha, Herman Hesse
4.The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle
5.Meditation: The First and Last Freedom, by Osho

Read these books. Just do it. Give yourself this lasting and finally real joy. Awesome, is all I can say. I love humanity so much. I love all life so much. It's truly impossible to express. I feel dorkish even saying it. But it's so true, I cannot deny it any longer. That's it.

Being Complete. This is Love.

It's all around and it's all I want to talk about right now. Most of my friends are having relationship troubles. Most of my friends are feeling lonely or have felt lonely recently. It is important to look into some of the fundamentals of love, loneliness, insecurity, and the purpose of these things.

In society, we have our divisions. We divide ourselves as children. We learn that there are two: Good/Bad, Safe/Unsafe, Beautiful/Ugly, True/False, White/Black, Straight/Gay, and of course Masculine/Feminine(which influences our psychology the most). It is true, our male/female label tends to compartmentalize us all in countless and the deepest of ways. Our clothing, how we walk, how we dress, what we are allowed to say, think and do. Our demeanor, our personality, our inner strength, our leadership skills, and of course what we search for in a mate. The last of these is important to understand.

We push into our subconscious the very things that we are taught isn't allowed to be expressed in us because it isn't in line with our sex. We end up unconsciously looking for these qualities in our lovers and even in our friends. The usual qualities we push into our subconscious are found in the parent of the opposite sex. I was taught that I am a man and that I must represent my gender, thus all that I see exemplified by the opposite sex (most always by the mother if you are a boy) is considered to belong to that sex and thus not acceptible within and only repressible.

So, since our unconscious mind stores all of these qualities that we learn yet cannot express, the only way for the self to feel complete is to either learn to express and integrate these qualities that are both masculine and feminine, or attach one's self to a member of the opposite sex that resembles the qualities that we ourselves have in us inwardly. The self feels that just to be near these qualities expressed by a member of the opposite sex is enough. But it is never enough. Eventually there is the frustration of the realization of the fact that you cannot possess the other and that true and 100% unification is not a possibility and never will be.

It is important to realize that not all of the qualities we associate with the opposite sex and thus repress and bury into the unconscious mind are specifically found in the paren of the opposite sex. This isn't always so. In fact, society seems bent on telling us what is feminine and masculine every day in every ad, in every song, on every program, in every book, in every conversation, in every class, etc. So, so long as we see compassion, sensitivity, lovingness, softness, tenderness, and other qualities of this sort as feminine qualities, we can count on the majority of men in society to be lacking in these qualities in their outward manifestation. And so they will be looking for mates who exemplify these qualities so that they can project their own images of the repressed self onto them and feel subconsciously that they are well on their way to a true unification of self, both repressed and expressed.

This may very well be the reason that many women go out with men who other men consider to be jerks. Many men have always been stumped by this. A comic once said, "I don't get it. I've spent half my life trying not to treat women like objects, and consequently I've had to treat objects like women." So, many women may choose a man who is tough, emotionally closed, and a bit mean even. These are qualities that are thought to be masculine, and thus they are qualities that are repressed within women. So some women search them out in an outwardly manifested form, such as a jerk. The truth is, women are disconnected with their own inner power, and so the power they see displayed by others becomes very attractive.

The key to personally enlightening ourselves on this matter and developing an inner completeness that will allow us to finally experience true love without dependency and attachment is to start right now by observing what it is that we find attractive in others. We can begin to see what it is in us that has been repressed and start to become ok with the expression of these qualities. We must be whole and walk through life with experience of this type of abundant inner-strengh. This type of happiness is already ours. It is already here. It is within us. And it is avaible now, in the now. Isn't it nice to learn that all that we've ever wanted is already ours and already here with us? It is us. Now let the search vehicle turn around and reverse the outward search. Let's head inward and become healthy, sane, and complete people so that we can lead by example and help others to discover their own inner-strength and experienc their own completion. This is love.

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One of the Best Experiences of My Life!

I'm completely Zen-ed out right now. I've just done my first session of this really really really really really really really really really really really AWESOME and freeing meditation called Catharsis and Celebration.

It was PHENOMENAL. The first ten minutes is chaotic breathing. Every event, taught lesson, tragic memory, great memory, everything that the body and mind has experience is tied in to the breath. So for ten minutes you chaoticly breathe in and out as fast and as vigorously and as deeply as you can. You totally fill your being with an overabundance of oxygen.

Then you explode! For the next fifteen minutes you just let go and do whatever you feel like. You just let your energy explode and your body and mind express themselves how ever, without trying to control it or inhibit it at all.

Then you spend ten minutes jumping up and down and saying "HOO" real load every time you land. It connects you with your lower chakras, which are the ones usually most cut off and repressed in and by society.

Then you freeze for fifteen minutes and simply observe and watch what is happening. You notice things. You become the separate observer who steps aside and watches the continuously chattering mind and the body.

In the fifth and final stage you celebrate by dancing around joyously. You do this for fifteen minutes as well.I'm telling you. This has been a real awakening. The body is holding so much fear and anxiety and repression and inhibition and we are so locked into this prison. This meditation was given by a world renowned spiritual master from India named Osho who specifically designed this for the Western mind, since the Western mind finds it almost impossible to sit and just breathe without thinking. This was truly a catharsis and a celebration. I hope you might consider trying it. Anyone who wants more info on this, shoot me an email either on the CT or at guilfoyle_billy@hotmail.com

The End All in Enlightenment!!!

So fortunate am I to have had the honor of being in communication with a really fantastic author who teaches privately in France and Japan. I emailed him on the subject of Samadhi, which is the Sanskrit for "Awakening". His most recent article appeared in the most recent Lotus Guide and what caught the beat of my all-knowing heart was his mention of ego notions such as "I am hungry" or "I am tired" and the like. It was fascinating to read about how we identify ourselves with so many emotions, feelings, and even outter objects. His remedy for this scared ego-grasping tactic: do the opposite. Say "I am not that". So it's "I am not hunger or hungry" or "I am not tired". The I's don't have it anylonger.

But what has excited me most on this last few steps toward ultimate liberation, freedom and complete self-reliance and full responsibility has been a suggestion that this author and spiritual master has given. His name is Andreas Mamet for those who wish to Google or whatever. He suggested that I order a book from Amazon called Meditation: The First and Last Freedom, by Osho. I've read countless books and articles on meditation. And I've been meditating steadily for quite some time. However, my mind is very difficult to tame in this way, just sitting and closing the eyes and focusing on the breath for 15 to 30 minutes a day.

This book by Osho is the definitive master piece of a guide through various meditation techniques for the busy and easily distracted Western mind. Some techniques call for simply going nuts in dance for 15 minutes, letting the body express itself however it feels. All the while you are observing, watching the actions and the self and the thoughts. By doing this you become the observer separate from mind and its many confines and anxieties. One eventually comes to the question, "Well, if I'm not the thoughts and I am just observing all of this that is happening, then who or what am I?" By the time you get to this question, which won't take long, you will find the answer on your own. And believe me, it will take you to entirely new and more fruitful levels of being.

My hope is that all of you who luck out and are reading this right now will immediately order this awesome and enjoyably read book by Osho. To come out completely clear of all past drama/trama/karma or whatever you want to call it, you are then FULLY able to be present and benefit the entire world in the most adequate and comprehensive of ways. You will have become a true Peaceful Revolution Leader!

In Less Than a Week......

Ok, in less than a week I've had over 90 views of my blogadyblog. So what's the deal? How come so few comments? The title is "Peaceful Revolution Leader". Are people wanting a revolution? And are they expecting to find someone who might inspire them and who might be a true leader? And lastly, are they disappointed to find that the blog tells them that they themselves are leaders and that the only way to lead is by example? This would connote that each of us is fully responsible. Is that a scary thought or something?

Well, the truth is that we are responsible in this sense: We each are fully responsible for our beliefs. If we were born in some distant land in a tribe of Eskimos, we would celebrate the deaths of our elders and not shed a single tear. However, in our land we cry when we lose a loved one. Is either tradition a correct tradition? I cannot say. My heart says no. But I can say that the emotion expressed here with the same cause (death of a loved one) is different and thus we are not subject to irreversable programming. We can choose how we view life and what we believe, and thus we can control our emotional output, which is only a reaction based on these beliefs. If this is so, then we can basically take complete control of our lives and direct them as we choose, all the while hurtling past previously feared obstacles.

What is there to be feared in taking complete control and responsibility of ourselves? I think nothing. I think there is absolutely nothing on Earth to be feared. But what can a single person accomplish by taking complete responsibility for their beliefs and thus behaviors? That's the question right there.

I've seen people who were simply high on life come into the work place and lift the spirits of even the most somber souls. I've seen the power of the confident person appeal so much to others that they emulate this confidence themselves, having noted the benefits they've seen from living this life free from the confines of anxiety. We watch countless films and listen to our favorite musicians and actors as they stand before what amounts to millions of eyes and ears, and in these moments they simply share from their hearts. They play like children and do so without being controlled by fear. And we stand before them in awe, deeply desiring this same freedom. It isn't by some accident that our greatest heroes and role-models are the confident and free artists who do what the opposite of destuction is as their calling.

Leading by example is the only way, and the reason for this is that the childheart within is in constant revolution. We are all rebels to the core. Nobody wants to be told what to do or ordered what to do! But we admire the actors. We admire those who go out and do and let their doings speak for themselves. If only Hitler, Napolean, George W. Bush, and all other controlling people were privy to these truths. What a world there would be if we all took this type of personal responsibility. It takes only one person who fully understands these truths to exemplify the way in a way that affects change within thousands and thus millions. What goes around continues to go around and around.

Peace on Earth

Sup folks! Billy Guilfoyle here. This is my first professional blog. I'm glad you stopped by, coffee/tea/juice or whatever in hand. I imagine you in a bath rope with nothing on underneath, sitting with one leg crossed over the other and your chin raised up a bit in expectation of wisdom and interesting tidbits from your favorite Guilfoyle.

Boy is it true that this world is filled with illusion. There is a separate and more accurate reality that is only experienced in the conscious quest for the ultimate reality. All of the wise have written of this in the past. You would think that this would be enough to send all on this journey. My Eastern Religions professor once said, "We're all goin ta San Francisco. Some of us will drive straight there in two hours. Some of us will take the country roads and arrive in 4 hours. Some will hit the coast and stay a few nights in Bodega Bay. Some will fly out of Sacramento, teach English in China for a few years, and then fly back to San Francisco International. The point is that no matter what, we are ALL going to San Francisco to eat clam chowder at Fisherman's Warf." Of course he means that the discovery of the actual reality free from illusion is an inevitability. Some will get there quickly. Some will meander a bit. But I'll see you all there eventually.

I promise, if you read my posts in the future, and read and add comments from my friends and all, you will find yourself a part of a truly caring community of people who enlighten wherever they go. Love to you and the world,
B